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Arrivederci Posted - Apr 24 2012 : 10:50:10 AM
This is a rant about dramatic Goodbyes.
Don't tell me you hate all the drama here but you turn around and create more! If you don't like the forum and want to leave then Leave! Don't post a three paragraph long "Good bye" letter.
If you don't like how one person treat's you then don't post on there threads. If you don't like the drama then don't create more. If you don't like rudeness then ignore them. Don't go on to say you were here to learn and teach if you make posts like "Good bye" or "it was good but"
You know what I do? I rant like I am right now. If you want to leave then leave. Don't go and make a post about it to get people worked up. If you just stop posting no one will notice. If you were really popular here then after a few weeks some one might ask the question but for the most part no one will care.
Listen. I am not trying to be mean here. I am not putting blame on any particular person. But I feel this needs to be said. If you made an account on ANY forum expect to be criticized a little. Its a forum it means we can speak our opinions. |
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Omis n Kais g-ma Posted - Apr 28 2012 : 08:41:59 AM
Life is not stress free. Why not just stay and post a little here and there? I mean really...if you have questions, contact those that don't give you a hard time about your grammar. You can contact me. If I don't know, I will get your answer somewhere.I just can't believe how anal some are being about spelling and punctuation. I understand her and I would like to think I use proper grammar. |
JazzNZoeysmom Posted - Apr 27 2012 : 11:30:09 PM
Well I will say that I wish you the best and you are probably right in taking your Dr.'s advice and getting away from this forum, because if being asked to make your threads a little more legible is that stressful then you really shouldn't burden yourself with it.
This forum is not stress free by a long shot...it is one of the more lienient forums where we are all allowed to speak our minds and some do it a little more forcefully than others. And in all honesty no group of strangers' conflicting ideas and opinions is worth your health.
Wishing you the best. |
kyro298 Posted - Apr 27 2012 : 10:58:09 PM
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Originally posted by sjones5254
Most that do the dramatic goodbye still lurk then reply to threads like this 
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baby.girl Posted - Apr 27 2012 : 10:09:46 PM
For one im putting a stop to this! You can talk about me if you want,but just so everyone knows i said i was leaving because i cant get stress out. For your information i have a bad heart that already quit on me three time's and i been told i wont live to see another month but im still standing and fighting for my life. After all that i can never have real kid's cause it'll put to much on me and my body cant handle it, let alone i have a rare type of blood.I was also taking out of school for passing out in i was only in 9th grade at the time.I had to be home schooled. Also I dont want people to beg me to stay or even ask me, Im following my orders that my doctor gave me. I also dont want anyone to feel sorry for me cause im here and im doing what i want, I didnt have to join this site but i did cause like everyone else i wanted to learn and if i need help i could ask. I still cant figure out how to delete my account yet. If you cant say anything nice to me or anyone else maybe you should keep your mouth to your self in let this site be drama free. I'm not trying to get anything started but if it seem's like i'am then i'm sorry,but this is suppose to be drama free and talk about our suggies. If i had known this would end up this way i would of save me the trouble by not signing up. There you know my life story now and the real reason i'm leaving. |
Omis n Kais g-ma Posted - Apr 25 2012 : 02:38:10 PM
"My" saying is like water off a ducks back...let it roll off. |
kyro298 Posted - Apr 25 2012 : 01:47:14 PM
Tracy, I tell my daughter that ALL the time. They can only hurt you if you let them. PRICELESS. |
tootles Posted - Apr 25 2012 : 01:39:20 PM
Here's a little tidbit I learned in life(the hard way of course) people can only hurt you or your feelings if you let them. Let it all roll off like dust it's my new motto it really works :-) |
valkyriemome Posted - Apr 25 2012 : 01:15:20 PM
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Originally posted by Arrivederci
One example was valkriemome when I first joined. I didn't pack my bags and call it quits. I stayed and what do you know? We actually agree on something.
Know what!? I still hate you! This forum isn't big enough for the both of us, and I'm leaving!
Ok - that was a joke. And a sarcastic one at that.
The fact is, my memory is CRAP, and I also tick people off. I don't remember the people I tick off, nor do I remember what I did to tick them off. If they want to hold onto the grudge - that's ok for them. But, believe me when I say - I've completely forgotten it! |
kyro298 Posted - Apr 25 2012 : 01:07:23 PM
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Arrivederci Posted - Apr 25 2012 : 01:04:04 PM
People people!
Judgement is judgement. We are all judging each other now about morality, reasons people make "goodbye" posts, creating drama, etc...
I have disagreed with people here before. Gotten into arguments. One example was valkriemome when I first joined. I didn't pack my bags and call it quits. I stayed and what do you know? We actually agree on something.
You can judge me about how much of a horrible person I am. You can tell me that I am less then decent human being. You can even go as far to say that I am picking on others. But you know what? None of that matters because what I said is still true.
and Good Night!
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Farns Posted - Apr 25 2012 : 12:43:08 PM
Some of us just don't get the chances we used to. My job has changed that but what I see in some of these threads is not enough to jump ship unless you're just too sensitive. Too many people wear their hearts on their sleeves and need to get a little thicker skins and roll with the punches. If you can't deal with this, don't get into business with job competition and deadlines and pressure or you'll never survive! |
JazzNZoeysmom Posted - Apr 25 2012 : 12:32:14 PM
LOL, she has a point Alden...
I think most of us, even when the forum gets to us we will just not log on for a few days until things smooth out.
I have seen one like Alden describes...the person just calmly mentioned that the drama was getting too much for them, for personal reasons, and just said a nice good-bye and said they would still lurk now and then.
That post was actually nice and many of us rallied around while respecting their decision. We didn't change their mind but we understood the reasoning they gave for having to distance themselves and it was as much personal as it was the forum.... If that person ever decides to reappear I'm sure he'll be welcomed with open arms.
But I also agree with Alden, I'm old enough and dealt with enough people I can spot the drama filled, I'm taking my ball and going home cuz you all are a bunch of meanies good-byes. Right, wrong, or indifferent, I don't have the patience to coddle those people. Maybe if I was younger and less jaded I would, but I've done my time dealing with people like that. |
sjones5254 Posted - Apr 25 2012 : 12:23:34 PM
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Originally posted by taiwangirlie
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Originally posted by valkyriemome
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Originally posted by taiwangirlie
I think people post "Goodbye" posts to let the forum members know that they've been hurt by things other people have said to them or the general feedback they are getting. It is their final plea for acceptance from a community that they feel has rejected them.
How long have you been on the forum?
Maybe you aren't familiar with "goodbye posts." There are real goodbye posts, and there are "I hate you all. I'm going to take all my toys and go home, and you can't play with them anymore, because you are all a bunch of big meanies" goodbye posts. Which are made by spoiled brats who didn't get everything their way and are now gonna go tell mommy and pout.
You learn to tell the difference.
I've only been on this forum for 5ish months, but I have seen a couple goodbye posts.
What does a "real goodbye post" look like and how is it different? I guess I can't tell the difference because the last 3 or 4 goodbye posts that I've seen are all non-real.
Most that do the dramatic goodbye still lurk then reply to threads like this |
taiwangirlie Posted - Apr 25 2012 : 12:20:40 PM
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Originally posted by valkyriemome
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Originally posted by taiwangirlie
I think people post "Goodbye" posts to let the forum members know that they've been hurt by things other people have said to them or the general feedback they are getting. It is their final plea for acceptance from a community that they feel has rejected them.
How long have you been on the forum?
Maybe you aren't familiar with "goodbye posts." There are real goodbye posts, and there are "I hate you all. I'm going to take all my toys and go home, and you can't play with them anymore, because you are all a bunch of big meanies" goodbye posts. Which are made by spoiled brats who didn't get everything their way and are now gonna go tell mommy and pout.
You learn to tell the difference.
I've only been on this forum for 5ish months, but I have seen a couple goodbye posts.
What does a "real goodbye post" look like and how is it different? I guess I can't tell the difference because the last 3 or 4 goodbye posts that I've seen are all non-real. |
sjones5254 Posted - Apr 25 2012 : 12:16:18 PM
HAHAHA |
valkyriemome Posted - Apr 25 2012 : 12:11:03 PM
quote:
Originally posted by taiwangirlie
I think people post "Goodbye" posts to let the forum members know that they've been hurt by things other people have said to them or the general feedback they are getting. It is their final plea for acceptance from a community that they feel has rejected them.
How long have you been on the forum?
Maybe you aren't familiar with "goodbye posts." There are real goodbye posts, and there are "I hate you all. I'm going to take all my toys and go home, and you can't play with them anymore, because you are all a bunch of big meanies" goodbye posts. Which are made by spoiled brats who didn't get everything their way and are now gonna go tell mommy and pout.
You learn to tell the difference. |
JazzNZoeysmom Posted - Apr 25 2012 : 12:05:02 PM
Ah crap! Now we've got the Big Man on us!
I'm sorry Terry, I didn't mean to be mean. I'll be nice from now on!!!  |
taiwangirlie Posted - Apr 25 2012 : 12:02:48 PM
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Originally posted by prettyinpink5808
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Originally posted by taiwangirlie
I think if everyone treated others the way they would want to be treated, there would be a lot less drama.
It's important to keep in mind that not everyone is the same. Some people like to be babied, others have more of a "tell it like it is" approach. Just because someone is different from you doesn't mean they need your judgement imposed on them.
Yes, you should be able to speak your mind, but perhaps with a little more tact and in a less hurtful manner.
When someone puts a post like this out there, it is going to be judged...and they put it up just for that purpose. I'm sure Baby.girl knew what she was getting into after posting this thread....She could have just stopped posting and the drama would have ceased to exist!
I'm going to have to respectfully disagree. I do not think people post "Goodbye" posts because they are looking for judgement. If anything, judgement passed on them is the reason they are leaving.
I think people post "Goodbye" posts to let the forum members know that they've been hurt by things other people have said to them or the general feedback they are getting. It is their final plea for acceptance from a community that they feel has rejected them.
I'm not condoning this behavior, I'm just trying to walk a mile in their shoes. |
valkyriemome Posted - Apr 25 2012 : 11:48:50 AM
OMG! If Kazko leaves... we'll all be ... uh ... uh...
PARTYING ALL NIGHT LONG!! BRING ON THE PAR-TAY!! |
prettyinpink5808 Posted - Apr 25 2012 : 11:24:03 AM
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Originally posted by taiwangirlie
I think if everyone treated others the way they would want to be treated, there would be a lot less drama.
It's important to keep in mind that not everyone is the same. Some people like to be babied, others have more of a "tell it like it is" approach. Just because someone is different from you doesn't mean they need your judgement imposed on them.
Yes, you should be able to speak your mind, but perhaps with a little more tact and in a less hurtful manner.
When someone puts a post like this out there, it is going to be judged...and they put it up just for that purpose. I'm sure Baby.girl knew what she was getting into after posting this thread....She could have just stopped posting and the drama would have ceased to exist! |
kazko Posted - Apr 25 2012 : 10:55:56 AM
I left before reading this miserable thread but all of your replies forced me to see what was going on here. Now you've all done it!
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kyro298 Posted - Apr 25 2012 : 10:32:16 AM
I think that was sarcasm, Lisa. |
Omis n Kais g-ma Posted - Apr 25 2012 : 10:10:43 AM
I didn't read where Lyndia was leaving.quote:
Originally posted by karensink
jazznzoeysmom, don't leave me!!! i didn't mean it, i will never post another bad word. don't gooooooooooo
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karensink Posted - Apr 25 2012 : 09:48:26 AM
jazznzoeysmom, don't leave me!!! i didn't mean it, i will never post another bad word. don't gooooooooooo
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taiwangirlie Posted - Apr 25 2012 : 09:47:53 AM
I think if everyone treated others the way they would want to be treated, there would be a lot less drama.
It's important to keep in mind that not everyone is the same. Some people like to be babied, others have more of a "tell it like it is" approach. Just because someone is different from you doesn't mean they need your judgement imposed on them.
Yes, you should be able to speak your mind, but perhaps with a little more tact and in a less hurtful manner. |
xxashleighannxx Posted - Apr 25 2012 : 08:23:51 AM
Actually its based off of people ACTUALLY doing the right thing and not following everyone else. Where I come from, its not every day people are nice. So yeah, I am happy to see someone standing up for her. Did this hit home? No because I'm still never on here. Maybe once in a blue moon. Do I care to come on here? Nope ill gladly leave again and again. |
prettyinpink5808 Posted - Apr 25 2012 : 07:40:17 AM
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Originally posted by love my babies
I'm glad someone is standing up for her. This place is just like high school, if you're different in any way you're absolutely nothing. Thank you omis n kais gma, stuff like this gives me hope in humanity.
If your hopes for humanity are based off the way strangers behave on a forum, then you need to get out more. I have a sneaky suspicion that this may hit close to home for you since not too long ago, you were guilty of a dramatic exit also. You say people on this forum behave like high schoolers, then what does it say about people who throw temper tantrums and threaten to leave the forum every time something doesn’t go their way.
I’ve had my share of issues on this forum with certain people, but this is a forum. I am allowed to speak my opinion just like them. If I don’t like what they say or how they say it, I have the right to tell them. And guess what, they have the right to disagree with me and tell me about it. I’ve had several people say some nasty things to me, but I don’t threaten to leave because of it. The reality is, if you leave this site, no one would care. Being on this site doesn’t benefit anyone but you. YOU’RE the one that needs help with your gliders, not them. If you leave because you’re throwing a tantrum, it only hurts you and your gliders.
^  well said!! |
love my babies Posted - Apr 25 2012 : 07:37:45 AM
"I'm glad someone is standing up for her. This place is just like high school, if you're different in any way you're absolutely nothing. Thank you omis n kais gma, stuff like this gives me hope in humanity."
If your hopes for humanity are based off the way strangers behave on a forum, then you need to get out more. I have a sneaky suspicion that this may hit close to home for you since not too long ago, you were guilty of a dramatic exit also. You say people on this forum behave like high schoolers, then what does it say about people who throw temper tantrums and threaten to leave the forum every time something doesn’t go their way.
I’ve had my share of issues on this forum with certain people, but this is a forum. I am allowed to speak my opinion just like them. If I don’t like what they say or how they say it, I have the right to tell them. And guess what, they have the right to disagree with me and tell me about it. I’ve had several people say some nasty things to me, but I don’t threaten to leave because of it. The reality is, if you leave this site, no one would care. Being on this site doesn’t benefit anyone but you. YOU’RE the one that needs help with your gliders, not them. If you leave because you’re throwing a tantrum, it only hurts you and your gliders.
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josiec Posted - Apr 24 2012 : 11:11:13 PM
It would be awesome if we could all get back to talking about gliders and not worry about peoples spelling and goodbye posts.. how old are we? |
josiec Posted - Apr 24 2012 : 11:09:08 PM
@arrivederci ok so you hate drama posts..So in return you start a dama post? Wow.. Ok then. |
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