I wish my mom would let me get some gliders!

I see alot of people on here all talking about their cute lil furr butts and stuff!
i want to be a mommy again!!!
I hate how my mom made me give them up!!
she didnt even give them a chance!
i mean sugar and spice went to a fantastic great caring home!
but i miss them so much...it has been 7 1/2 months scence the last time i have seen them! they live in seattle now with their forever home!

i have asked my mom so much if i could get 2 suggies and she just says flat out NO!
but it is also i would be scared because my moms boyfriend of 12 years is a big time drunk! he use too be very abusive mainly towards me and my mom....now it isnt that bad but i still do get abused every once awhile...i live with my 2 younger brothers and my younger and older sister...my mom and "guy" (guy is my moms bf) and we all just really dislike all holidays, because he ruins them all of them! if it is not about him he will make people feel like s*** so that will make him feel better....but the whole reason i am talking about guy being abusive is because i wouldnt want guy to end up hurting my suggies if my mom finally let me get some...me and my dad have been secretly talking about letting me go back and live with him in the summer but the problem their is his wife connie...i am not even going to start with her!
but yeah...

i am so sorry you guys! (for talking all about me and not alot about suggies) but this does make me feel a little better....

i want to thank every one here on glider gossip!! for helping me when i needed help and being so so SOO nice to me!!! i feel welcome here!!! i feel like i belong here...because if i talk to my friends about sugar gliders or my family either they dont want to talk about them or they are like WHAT???!?!?!? what are sugar gliders? but here i can talk about that stuff and you guys are just awsome and talk to me back on it!!!

thank you guys!!! i love all yalll!!!!

Bree

I am terribly sorry you have to go through such awful things,no one should ever have to be subjected to that!! I will tell you this though, what dont kill us makes us stronger & one day bree you will have your suggies just dont give up! right now you know its not the best time, as you said, Guy is abusive & you never know when he may decide to do something terrible to your suggies (if you were to get them in the current living situation).sometimes things work out for the best & it seems like all the cards are stacked against you, but in reality its gods way of protecting us.. just keep your chin up! something may turn around, WE NEVER know what TOMORROW may bring or next month or even next year.. your learning so much by being here on the forum & you have been a very caring person to alot of people here as welland dont ever feel like reaching out & just needing to unload is wrong!! everyone here understands & we all wish we could do more to help you, I know I do! Stay strong! because guys like your moms boy friend are very insecure people & they cant be happy unless everyone else is unhappy & miserable...stay focused on whats important & learn as much as you can about your future suggie kids! let that be a possitive focus for you & everyone here knows that you would make a wonderful suggie momma!!

hey, i know how you feel about the boyfriend and step mother deal. i hated all of my step dads and step mothers (long story there).hopefully things will work out for you with your dad and he'll let you get some suggies. by the time you are able to get a couple of sugars you will no doubt be an expert on them. i did some research before i got my pair, apparently that was not enough. i still continue to learn about them and i've had my pair almost 2yrs. don't give up hope, when the time is right you will have your babies. good things come to those who wait(rather they want to or not). waiting is the hardest thing to do!! just keep telling yourself,"i will have a couple of suggies one day". before you know it, you will. that old saying "absence makes the heart grow fonder" also applies here. i could go on and on with those but i think thats enough. i get tired of hearing myself sometimes!! while you are waiting, you could start preparing for them. start making some toys,pouches or anything else you can think of. that too will pass the time. i have to agree with cricket08, you will be a great suggie mom.

I am really sorry that you had to give up your babies! It is really hard living with a dysfunctional parent. I can relate to that. My dad is a major drug addict and he did not physically abuse us (though it might count as physical abuse, the constant teasing at night?), but he would abuse us in other ways especially my mother. It was really hard because for the longest time I wanted to fix the problem and felt as if it was my fault in some way. I can also relate to a losing a pet situation too. I had to give up my dog because my dad spent all of the $ on drugs and we ended up living with my gma. Sorry I got off on a little tangent there! But when I hear people who have been through similar circumstances of abuse, my heart just drops! Bree, I will pray that hopefully you will get to live with your dad and have some suggies! How old are you by the way?

Perhaps if you pay attention to the craigslist pet ads you might come across a cage of ferrets for free or next to nothing. They are a more handleable pet that the whole family can enjoy and there are so many of them out there needing homes.

Heres a link in Spokane for ferrets:
http://spokane.craigslist.org/pet/662389375.html
http://spokane.craigslist.org/search/pet?query=ferrets

Gesh that is terrible about your moms boyfriend. She needs to get rid of his ass not only for the good of herself but for her kids. I use to date a guy that was really nice at first. And then once we got serious he started treating me like crap. I delt with it but then he started treating my daughter like *. He spanked her and ended up leaving a bruise on her butt when she was only like 2 years old. That was the last straw for me. I told him that if he ever called me or tried to get in contact with me again I would make sure his ass was sitting in jail if my dad didnt kill him first and he has left me alone since. Thats really what your mom should do because I would hate for him to do some serious damage to your mom or you kids. :-( It sucks too that you arent able to have a sugar glider. It helps when you are sad and have an animal there to cheer you up. Sometimes they are better than people! Well I really hope that you get to move in with your dad! And also off subject but thats crazy u are from spokane. My husband was born in othello and his sisters still live there. Now hes with me in BFE Kansas!

Bree, Im sorry you hare having to deal with adult situations that are out of your control. Life just isnt fair at times.

But, it sounds like it really isnt a good time for you to have gliders. Who is going to pay for food and take care of vet expenses if your parents arent willing to do so? It really wouldnt be fair to get a glider that you can't take care of.

I'm not doubting for one second that you wouldnt do these things if you could. Sometimes, we just cant have what we want when we want it. And sometimes, there are reasons that Moms say no.

Thanks you guys!!! thank you so so much!! you are helping me feel so much better!

and yes i understand that having suggies is not a good time at all!!! i dont want to ever put any sugar glider nor any animal in this house hold i am in!

I am 15 years old
well if i did ever get suggies like soon i would be able to pay for everything my self. i have a job "i work at my fathers work" i am the "janitor" (sorry for spelling) i get paid $10 an hour and get $150-$200 every two weeks.

and last year my mom had every single detail planned out too leave him!
a duplex
a job
day care for my baby brother
and a really great man that works at the same place guy works at...his name is Rob and he still likes my mom...but anyway
all she had to do is tell him it was over...
but they day we were supose to leave...Guy started crying and saying he would stop fighting, stop drinking all together...then my mom sat me and my older sister down and told us "Girls i saw the real guy today, the Guy i fell inlove with" me and my sister started to cry and get angry...she told me and my sister that he would stop drinking and fighting with us...i then said "MOM!!! i could say i would stop drinking water forever, but you know i wont ever stop drinking water" most drunks cant stop drinking like that!
i know, my dad is in recovery "AA" its been 6 or 7 years now that he has been in recovery!! but to this day my mom is still with guy...i mean i under stand that he supports us. and i tell my mom all the tim"mom you can get a job, right now you are picking guy over us 5 kids! mom guy has emotionaly abused us all and has physically abuse me you and brittany (brittany is my older sister) and she just tells me to shut up and go away) i dont know what she sees in guy at all! and i totally agree with what Cricket08 said " what dont kill us makes us stronger"
i live by that, and i have gotten stronger.
when i hopefully move back in with my dad and i can get suggies i am going to treat them like my kids!!! i want them to get the life i didnt get!! (i know that doesnt really go well, cuz i am a person and they are animals but still)
i will treat them so good!!!

thanks to all who replied on here to help me!!
all you guys here on glider gossip are like my family that i never had!! and now i do "happy tears" thanks you guys!! i love you all!!

Bree

" what dont kill us makes us stronger"

Bree Do you ever watch the cold case files? Not to scare the hell out of you but some people get so drunk they dont know what they are doing and end up hitting their loved ones or pushing them sooo hard they end up killing them. When I started dating Joey I was 19 and he was 27. I had heard people say that he could be an ass but I ignored them. He told me that he wasnt like that, that people were just jealous we were together. and the day I broke up with him he told me that he would change that he would never hurt me or my daughter again. But you know what when you love your kids no one is worth taking that risk for! NO ONE! I feel so bad for you and it makes me sad to think you are living in that kind of situation. I dont mean to bash your mom but that is really messed up that she has put you in that situation. :( I hope things get better for you! I really really do! (Lol wow this topic went way off course but its all good!)

thanks ericarehaume!!

and i dont think it is really off topic!!! i was talking about my problems and you are so able to too!!!
and dont worrie about me getting mad or whatever about my mom! my dad told me once that a person who isnt a drunk but lives one can be as worse if not worse than the drunk and with my mom that is so true!! she use to be the mom i looked up too! when i was way young she did ALOT of drugs but then she quit because guy told her too but whats funny is my mom tells guy all the time to stopp drinkn and does he? NO!! but yeah i use to look up too my mom...then about 9 or 10 months ago she started taking diet pills and she wasnt even that big at all!! i mean i am a big girl. and she was never bigger than me btw...but now she is like a toothpick!! she takes so many diet pills it is not funny! even the dangerous ones! my older sister brittany has heart issues (when she was born she had to have open heart surgery) and brittany has never ever been big! she is a cheer leader and everything but she stole some of my moms diet pills and with her heart problem they are way more dangerous then a person without a problem taking them...when my mom found out she yelled at brittany. and i said well mom i know what brittany did is bad but i mean you are a size 0 in everything and brittany is a size like 5 and she is a teen and you are like 38? and i kept saying mom quit taking them! it puts on so much stress on me cuz i worrie about her so much!
then with my youngest brother ashton he is 4 almost 5, i am basically his 2nd mother...scence i go to contract "long story why" my mom said i have to watch ashton sometimes...but she literally makes me watch him alll day every day and with contract i am still supose to work like 5 hours a day...but it is so hard to do when i have a crazy wild 4 year old on my hands!! and i ask my mom daily "mom can you take ashton with you" and she is like NO!!! DO YOU WANT TO GO BACK TO REG. SCHOOL...i mean i get awsome great grades now i use too get d's and f's now i get a's b's and barly c's...and everytime i ask to take him guy also yells at me and just starts huge fights!!!
but yeah it is such a huge mess!!!
i cant wait till my dad sits his wife "connie" down and asks her if i can move back in "even know its not really up too her btw..." then i can probably get suggies!!!!!!!


Bree

My dear Bree Bree -

It's so sad to see you having such a tough time. I've been so impressed by your selflessness in wanting to help folks find suggies when you yourself can't have them. That shows just what a good heart you have. No one should have to endure the type of abuse you're living with right now. We all have rough patches in our lives that are devastating. What they're saying is true: "If it doesn't kill you, it'll make you stronger." Keep telling yourself this. Eventually, it will be just an unpleasant part of your history - a phase that you will overcome. Sometimes I know it seems that situations are unendurable. But these things do pass.

When I found out that I had multiple sclerosis it was because I went blind in one eye, and partially lost control of my right hand and arm. My whole right side was numb, and for awhile, I was unable to walk. My wildlife art career that I had worked 15 years to build came to a screeching halt. I didn't know if I would ever paint again; or if my other eye would go as well. I lost my career and my friends and my identity. I'd always been "the artist". But things did turn around. Now, I have a job that I love, new friends, and I'm living in a forest paradise. We all have to learn to cope with whatever life imposes on us. To quote another platitude, "If life hands us lemons, make lemonade."

Hang in there - IT WILL GET BETTER!

thanks dizzysmom!!
i am also with you and think and hope that things will get better here!

Bree as long as you keep your focus & the resolve you carry within! you will grow very strong from this!! theres so many people that has to be handed such horrid starts in life...but thats just the beginning, no one paints the future for you! you determine your future yourself by the choices you make in life today, so many people are handed trials in life that can destroy them if they choose to cave in to the pressure & give up!! dizzysmom didnt give up!! its all to be admired! & one day you will be admired for your accomplishments as well! I know many on this forum knows that with a heart as big as yours & the strength to endure what you have already you are destined for much greater things in life!! Goodness to be able to maintain the sweet & smart person you are in the situation your currently in "I admire your strength" I just wish I could hug you right now!!

thanks!!!
"HUGSSSS" lol
yeah dizzysmom is so awsome!! i love art like her and i am so happy she pulled through!!! thanks ya guys for making me feel better...i dont think my actual family could help me and make me feel as good as you guys here at glider gossip do!!

thanks!!!

Bree

Bree, I too admire your strength. You will get thru all of this and believe it or not, you will have a greater sense of self. Always remember that none of this is your fault. You are having to deal with decisions that were made by others and unfortunately, have effect on you.

My own father, whom I love dearly and who is now very ill, drank a lot and was not a nice drunk. I know what it feels like to be so perplexed about things and wonder what you did to deserve such treatment. But life has a way of working out - and making you stronger. I know Im a much stronger person because I didnt have it so easy when I was younger. Now my Dad needs my help. I forgave him a long time ago as it was no good for anyone, especially me, to carry the anger and hurt around. And Im more than happy to take care of him in his time of need. Life takes strange turns....

Keep your chin up. Never forget that you are a very caring and deserving young woman. And that you have done nothing wrong.

i know i have already posted but i know where you are coming from with the drinking issues. my dad has always had a drinking problem from as far back as i can remember (5 yrs. old). he was very abusive to my mom, there were times when i thought he would kill her if he didn't stop. he was a happy drunk when it was just beer, give him liquor and he was as mean as a rattle snake. he had shot holes in the ceiling,tv and even threatened people with his rifle. my mom is a recovered alchoholic, she hasn't drank in years. my dad,still an alchoholic. i have the genes as does my sister. i don't mind having a couple of drinks(during the summer) but i know my limit.i usually get sick after 3-4. you want to know what is bad, i was between 5-6 yrs. old when i got drunk the first time. mom said i snuck into the beer, thats not what i remember. anyway, my point is that it has made me a smarter person when it comes to things like that, and i hope a better parent. when my kids start to go through all the peer pressure to drink or anything else i hope from my experiences growing up that i can stop them before they start. i am sure it has and will make you a better person, i hope the same for your siblings. my dad cared and loved my sister and myself just not always in the best of ways. everyone on here has told you the truth and its great that people care so much. this world would be a better place if there were more people like that out there. i know one day you will get your suggies and you will be a very devoted suggie and human parent. we also learn from mistakes other people make and not just ourselves. i learned both ways, although i still make mistakes myself. just remember there are people who love and care for you and you can get through anything knowing that.

Bree, hearing your story breaks my heart. Not because you can't get gliders right now but that at your age you are having to deal with as much as you have to deal with. Grown ups can act stupid sometimes. Please don't get me wrong. I'm not saying your parents are stupid. But at 15 you should be able to enjoy life like a 15 year old. My parents divorced when I was young and I had to grow up much sooner than most of my friends. I had to take care of my younger brother and get a job at 15 to help out. I have seen many of your post since you became a member here and you have a very kind heart. You truly want to see all the gliders out there go to good homes. You are certainly dealing with alot at a very young age. It does make me feel better knowing that you do have friends here that can give you some advice and most of all just listen when you need someone to just listen. I agree with the other members that now is not a good time for you get gliders but you just keep helping other members here like you have by letting them know where they can find gliders for sale when they are looking for gliders. You have a very good heart and I know one day you are going to make a wonderful glider mommy. Bree everyone on here knows what you mean when you say you will treat them like children. We all love our gliders that way. I can't wait to get home to my little furr butts. I talk to them like they are children and I love them very much. So we do understand you. Sweetie hang in there and I hope things get better for you. You will always have friends here to talk to. Life can be very hard for young people this day and time but it will make you a better grown up. Hugs and kisses to you!!

Bree Bree
After reading all your posts and all your friends here's posts my main thought is concern for your safty and your 4 siblings.
No one should be abused...emotional or physical....

I assume your Dad knows what is going on and other family members too?
Your Mom I would be willing to bet is staying with this man not so much out of love but out of fear of being on her own with 5 children to support. I also assume that your dad is not the father of all of the children....If Guy is the father of some and your mom leaves him she can get child support even though they are not married if his name is on any of the birth certificate. Most states also have help available to single mom's.

If you move in with your dad their will still be 4 children left in a horrible situation. From your comment about your dad's wife..it sounds like there would be problems living under her roof....but not as serious as the ones your face now.

It is against the LAW for Guy to abuse Mom or the kids...either he needs to go or all the kids need to be moved. Is your grandparents able to help or any aunts? Your Mom overcame her drug addiction and your dad his alcohol addition (he will always have to be "on the wagon") alcoholism is an illness.

Is there a school consulor or a clergyman that you and your older sister could speak with. I also watch alot of A&E...true crime and know that abuse can lead to injury or death...many times the person does not mean to "commit" these crimes but can not help themselves while drunk.
If your dad can not help you and the other children then you and your sister need to have another talk with MOM...away from the house, Guy and the other kids...let her know how you and sis feel.

Your dad needs to help you with this problem..does he have a civil relationship with your mom? Someone needs to report what is going on to the authorities......even anonymously if nessasary.

I wish you the best of luck...what you are living with can effect your and your brothers and sisters whole lives.

the only people he physically hurt are me my mom and brittany... and it isnt that much at all any more....but mothers day was the last time i got abussed...i just got grabbed by my wrists and pushed out of the way by him...
and yes my dad does know about how often my mom and guy and somtimes brittany and I fight....and Connie "my dads wife"
will never hurt me! i would never let that happen!!!
it is just she is crazy!!! "very very long story about connie!!" but it is no where near as bad as it is here at my moms house
and guy is the father of just my two brothers "gavin who is 9 and ashton who is 4"

I just know if the authorities come into this mess, my mom will more then likely hate me for life and wouldnt want to get help and wouldnt want to get a job and just probably become homeless...but i ddont know... and we dont really have any really wealthy people on my moms side...the only wealthy "family" we know are guys parents...and they dont like me my mother or brittany "we dnt have a clue why, we treat them with great respect." Guys dad is the nice one, but not his mother...and guys sister and brother arnt that nice either....
and i dont really like talking to counselers because my passed counselers they would just say yeah ok sure mmhm really ok they wouldnt talk to me they would just say those things!
and i really dont want my mom too hate me, because somthing like that will most likely happen if i do anything that would cause guy to leave...

So your dad is he the father of 3 and Guy is the father of 2??? Or was there another daddy????

Do you think your Mom stays with Guy because she loves him or is afaid to be on her own? Are you and Brit close? Are you both close to your Mom? Since Guy is not your father I would not expect "his" family to help although any adult knowing what is going on should "step in" and try to help.

If you went to a church....(even if your don't belong to one)....the pastor would listen to you and maybe able to help/guide you...I know my married daughter belongs to a Baptist church and a lady with 3 children left her husband because he was abusive and came from Sarasota to West Palm Beach to "get away"..she had little money an no family ...the pastor helped her get an apt...and a job and the congragation...chipped in and donated furniture, clothes, food and money to help her get on her feet. They are doing very good now...the pastor helped them get free therapy..as 2 of the children had emotional problems from living with abuse.

If mom wants out she can do it.....I hope she does....my thoughts are with you and your siblings

my bad...guy is the father of the 2 boys and brittany my older sister her dad moved too alaska this passed summer "huge story why brittany lives with us." his name is chuck...then their is Stan! my dad! and mersadies dad.
so their are two actual fathers and 1 abbusive drunk father...Guy doesnt even care about his kids! he has never watched them. maybe once or twice the first time was when gavin was like 3 or 4 and guy passed out from being so drunk and gavin got out of the house and thank God the next door neighbors got him!

His parents dont really help us out.
and me and britt are some what close and we were really close to our mom but now she never talks to us...if she does its about her self and how "FAT" she is....when she is really stick thin. and guys family doesnt know that he has ever hurt us... I think they know that my mom and him get into alot of bad fights mostly about nothing. I think it is both, she "says" she loves him but i dont know and i know its also because she doesnt want to be alone. I try to tell her how much better for all of us it would be without guy. and i told her i would help out as much as possible! but she just ignores me...and to tell you somthing about my mom...she LOVES drama she lives on drama...somtimes i think when guy is here and i say somthing that she doesnt like and she screams at me and i think she wants guy to here it and he will come down and start a fight...
and my mom doesnt go to church i dont know why...i have gone with a friend before and it was fine. but it is like my mom doesnt want us going to church and again i dont know why

thank you Roz!!
thanks for helping me!

Bree I worry about you trying to deal with all of these issues alone. You are still so young and I know you have had to grow up early. Bree I hope you continue to come on here and talk to us and share what ever you want to. I'm sure alot of people would say it's not any of our business, but it sounds like you really need a friend and someone to talk to. Someone to tell you that they care about you and send you some hugs and kisses. I know that we don't know you personally but I care about you and I admire you for being such a strong young lady. I wish you could come to Florida and stay with me for awhile. I would love to have someone like you come and help me take care of ALL my furr butts. If coming on glider gossip and being a part of this crazy little glider community makes you feel better and loved by the members here please always come and share what's on your mind. You can always send me a email or PM if you like. And Bree if you need someone to talk to if you PM me I will gladly give you my phone number to call whenever you need to. So back to your origianl post, just give it a little time and I'm sure your dreams to get a glider again will come. Take care of yourself. And big hugs and kisses.

Thanks Tinkertoy!
i wish i could come there too!!!
i guess just being around gliders makes me like me!
i dont no what it is but man! i just shine and i never really smile because i am never really happy but when i am on here and talking about gliders and seeing gliders i am stuck with a smile!!
thanks everyone you guys mean so so SO much to me!!

Bree

""I just know if the authorities come into this mess, my mom will more then likely hate me for life and wouldnt want to get help and wouldnt want to get a job and just probably become homeless...but i ddont know"""

Bree, you need to go tell a counselor or authorities on what is going on...you mom and guy are both sick. Its not something for you to 'hang in there'. what you said about how your mom will hate you...she is sick and can't see what is right for you and your siblings. you never know what night he will resort back to alcohol and hurt someone severely or maybe even fataly!!! instead of hang in there...go get help for you family, unfortunately it sounds like you need to be the adult of the situation. your mom will have to make her decisions on whether or not she will get help and so forth...BUT you and your siblings should not be left in that situation AT ALL!! The fact that it sounds like you sound strong and in control of your thoughts...you have no idea what your other siblings are thinking or learning. In the best interest of all of you kids not doing the same thing you are learning from your mom and her BF, you need to speak up!! You need to get help. The rest of your family is also 'abusing' you too. The fact that they have not stepped in and stopped it is just as bad as if they were doing it too! you really need to stop the vicious cycle that is going on in your home. again you have no idea if your siblings are going to end up the same way that your parents are. PLEASE GET SOME HELP!! being afraid is scary, but getting help will make your feel so much better. U not only will be helping yourself not 'end up like them' you are saving your siblings also. Print off what you originally typed up and hand it over to an adult at school that you trust...please get someone involved! u have no idea what is going to happen in the future unless you intervene yourself and direct your own future!! good luck...YOU CAN DO IT!!

but what if my mom says like to someone that i get help from and they try to come talk to her and she says "WELL MY DAUGHTER DOESNT KNOW ANYTHING!!! THEIR IS NOTHING THAT BAD GOING ON HERE" my mom never really talks to people anymore...i dont know why but now its like people that she knows she will only yell at them like me brittany mersadies gavin ashton my dad and so on... the only way i know how to get help is through my teacher at school. and if my mom finds out i am getting help from my school she will yank me out and put me in reg school...right now i go to contract...and i finally feel accepted, like i have a reason too go to school...i dont ever get made fun of anymore i have more friends, every one is nice, and usually it was a suprise if i ever passed a class, but now where i am at i get so SO much more one on one time with my teacher and now i am passing ever grade and i am getting more than enough credis a year!
But what also sucks is when i bring home report cards with my grades on it and their A's B's and C's nothing lower my mom doesnt care! she just says cool good job, in the caringless voice ever...it makes me want to cry...and makes me think that i cant amount too anything like i have no reason to live or go to school or anything...its the same way with brittany "my 17year old sister" she has almost a 4.0 and she runs track plus a cheerleader! and my mom still doesnt do anything for brittany...the one person i have that keeps me going is my dad! i love him so so much! he makes me feel so proud of my self! he belives in me all the way! he puts my grades on the fridge i know that is childish but it means the world to me!
i want my mom and my siblings to be happy and if that means that i have to go to a counseler and to the authorities too get rid of the sick F*** i guess i will have to.... but i wish i could just find a way too explain to you guys that if i do this my mom might end up on the street and my younger siblings could get tooken away from my mom and my mom could turn back to drugs...mersadies (my 12 year old sister) would go live with my dad, same with me,then brittany would probably have to fly out to alaska and live with her dad that doesnt care about her anymore because she chose to live with my mom OR she would have to move in with a friend and finish high school then go to college. but what would happen too my two brothers? my dad would never take them in...i know that sounds really bad but i dought he would, his wife has three kids (two girls one boy) they all live with their dad but her two girls come over alot and then their is me and mersadies that come over to my dads alot to get away from my moms house and for my to get homework done...and they barley get by on their bills. I wish i could live on my own and support my mother and two brothers but their would be no way ever possible, i am only 15 and only get 150-200 on my checks....i just dont know what to do...i want to get help for everyone so so bad but on the other hand so so much bad stuff could happen!!

i just talked to my sister brittany...she said dont go to a counseler or to the authorities...i think it is because what might happen to us and my mom if guy leaves...i seriously need help!!! i dont know what to do at all!!! to me its like if i do somthing right it is also wrong because what can happen! but if i dont do anything at all everything can get worse...

Bree...do you see drunks, and fighting and adults grabbing kids roughly at school? NO you don't dear...b/c it is wrong! You need to get someone involved. Tell your counselor or the teacher that you trust your fears, your worries, and your thoughts on you all getting split up. They are what you call 'mandatory reporters', they have to take care of you and report anything that is harmful to you mentally or physically. You cant control your mom and what she is going to say or do. What they will do is send social workers in to talk to you and your siblings. Away from your mom and guy. They will not tell your parent who reported it or what each of you said...they can't. They can however tell them what you want them to hear. how your afraid of abandonment and getting split up. When you talk to the social worker or your teacher, again tell them everything, they have to know it to know how to help you and your siblings. Honey, if he has changed some like you said, than there maybe some classes or counseling for him to do through the state that will allow you all to stay at home. You won't know till you try. Again, its going to be scary and not easy, but you need to get someone outside of what is going on involved. And some of the parties involved may 'hate' you for awhile, but after it is all said in the done, the RIGHT thing will happen. You will be safe, will be able to continue your education without fear of being grabbed or mistreated! that is what you deserve, go after it! I'll be rooting for you Monday morning!

Bree all this stuff is pretty scary for a girl your age to try to figure out. It sounds like you really need some help. I am posting a web site I wish you would take a look at. It has a number that you can call and it is anonymous. They are there 24/7 and the people you will talk to are professionals dealing with situations like yours. It is atleast a start and maybe they can give you some advice on what you need to do or can do. I hope they can help you out. Please look at the site and give them a call, you have nothing to lose and you don't have to be so scared because if you don't want them to know who you are you don't have to tell them. Much love to you.

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they are fighting right now...i was at my dads...and somthing in my head told me GO HOME NOW...i knew they were fighting but now i know i had to come back for ashton...guy pushed my mom against the door and he called me and my sisters bitches aww no