Please...oh please...tell me why the ex boyfriends and ex girlfriends feel the need to be on mine or my husband's facebook??? I mean...I am an open minded girl but my maturity is setting in and with that comes a slightly impaired patience with anything even remotely close to "bugging" me.

Like...don't tell my husband you think he "looks soooo good after all these years". I will hunt you down because I take that as "I really wanna hook up with you and do dirty things after all these years and who cares that you are married, domesticated, and virtually pee'd on by your possessive wife." Issues? Yeah, I got 'em but I own them. And for the most part, you don't want to push on them.

And on that same note - don't ping me and ask me to dinner to "catch up on old times". I left your a$$ for a reason and the "old times" are pale and dead compared to the "new times". Just cuz you got stuck with someone you are not happy with...does not mean I am. But I did somewhat enjoy learning that you were unhappy...so thanks for that. Trust me, I want to beat my husband into a hole in the back yard sometimes when he annoys me...but I DO NOT reach out to an ex to coddle myself.

Sometimes I wonder if FB was not created to be a pain in my butt. Grrrrrrrrrr!

Aw…well, it's not FB's fault. More like the exes that keep popping up. Ya want me to have a chat w/em for ya? I may make em cry. I am not exactly known for my diplomcy skills but if it's tears ya want, I can extract them for ya! Muahaha…

I dont like this side of you. All of that honestly seems like a personal issue and not reality. Life is about nothing more than people. Without others, our lives would be meaningless. It almost seems to me that "others" to you are people to exclude instead of include.

I have found that ex's actually make great friends because you have already done the sleeping with thing and you can actually go beyond and have an honest friendship. With an "ex", you wont go down "that road" because you already have. But these people will actually care about your life because they once cared so much. Anyone who messes up with that kind of thing is simply weak and perhaps not the best partner to begin with, eh?

Life is about connections, not walls. Jealousy is personal and manufactured.

The good thing about FB is you can UNFRIEND people, BLOCK people, and make your FB page pretty secure of unwanted people by adjusting your settings.

Exactly...I have exes I like and some I don't. The ones I don't, didn't get their invite accepted.

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I dont like this side of you. All of that honestly seems like a personal issue and not reality. Life is about nothing more than people. Without others, our lives would be meaningless. It almost seems to me that "others" to you are people to exclude instead of include.

I have found that ex's actually make great friends because you have already done the sleeping with thing and you can actually go beyond and have an honest friendship. With an "ex", you wont go down "that road" because you already have. But these people will actually care about your life because they once cared so much. Anyone who messes up with that kind of thing is simply weak and perhaps not the best partner to begin with, eh?

Life is about connections, not walls. Jealousy is personal and manufactured.

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More posted in jest than anything serious but I can say the "ones" (technically two) I am referring to are people that intentionally set out to disrespect relationships and believe you me - there are some of those out there. The ones who want to "go down that road" again and will manipulate to do so. I didn't post any history on where that came from but while I joke that my perceptions are jaded, it's more HA HA with a tinge of "I've seen that before...with that person no less." That is where I draw the line. Friends respect one another and also respect the positions they take with regard to fidelity etc.

I have several ex's that are great friends and ironically I am absolute best friends with my husband's ex girlfriend before he met me. And, we met AFTER he and I were together. By default, I don't subscribe to social parameters but I do believe that there are healthy relationships and unhealthy relationships. I am complaining about the unhealthy ones above and perhaps shouldn't have lumped them into the "ex" category as a stereotype. It just so happens that some of those potential unhealthy relationships are with ex's.

Now that you have made me think about it - I went back and did the math, LOL. Out of all of my "ex's" - I am close friends with all but 1. Not shutting anyone out - just being more aware of those that have both of our best interest at the heart of their actions. I believe that is also testament to a good friendship. Most people certainly wouldn't want to be friends with someone that had bad intentions for you or the ones you love. Hope that makes sense!

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The good thing about FB is you can UNFRIEND people, BLOCK people, and make your FB page pretty secure of unwanted people by adjusting your settings.

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Very very true!

I'm friends with quite a few exs - and a few of my ex's ex's - on FB. I don't mind hearing that my ex-husband looks sooo good. He does. He's aging well, and I take those comments as compliments, not someone hitting.

Honestly, I have many more problems with glider people on FB. I'm on the forums less and less - because I just can't take the BS any more. But, because they can't reach me on the forums, the haters just HAVE to drag it over to FB. My FB is my quiet place - I use the "Delete" and "Block" buttons freely.

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Exactly...I have exes I like and some I don't. The ones I don't, didn't get their invite accepted.

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BINGO love it!

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I'm friends with quite a few exs - and a few of my ex's ex's - on FB. I don't mind hearing that my ex-husband looks sooo good. He does. He's aging well, and I take those comments as compliments, not someone hitting.

Honestly, I have many more problems with glider people on FB. I'm on the forums less and less - because I just can't take the BS any more. But, because they can't reach me on the forums, the haters just HAVE to drag it over to FB. My FB is my quiet place - I use the "Delete" and "Block" buttons freely.

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yeah she saying another girl, an ex, is telling how great hoer husband looks. My husband wouldn't cheap but he's one of those you tell anything flirting and he so wouldn't get it. I have no idea why we are married, oh yeah because I spelled it out to him. (All he thinks about is boat and ocean)

One reason I don't use my maiden name for FB, I don't look up people that I wasn't friends with when I got married, don't need them looking me up now. It's true, it's not FB, it's the people, you can control to an extent who you have contact with on there and control who can access your page. I don't go on as much as when I first joined, my husband & I first shared mine then he opened his own, he has lots of friends from his past and I do ask, if it's a girl, "did you date her" or "like her". LOL, but I trust him.

Insecurity will destroy your marriage, I’ve seen it happen over and over in my line of work. If you are getting your feathers ruffled over someone saying your husband looks good on facebook, there are some insecurity issues going on no matter how you slice it. I work for a police department and I see these police officers getting hit on all day by woman (mostly for the uniform). I’ve seen wives really drive themselves crazy turning little things that are insignificant into big things that end up causing a big fuss for no reason.

Not trying to cause a stir or hurt your feelings, but the way I see it- a comment like that shouldn’t get under your skin like this. Maybe you are more upset about who said it, like because it was an ex-girlfriend? I don’t know, but it seems like you may be setting yourself and your relationship up for future failure…….

LOL! Kim you crack me up! And I agree...there's a reason that ex's are ex's. If you left them it was for a reason and if they left you then they don't deserve your time.
And by the way...happy 10th anniversary tomorrow!

You guys ever just get pissy about something and want to just vent it out? Even if you know you are being a little zealous and exaggerated? That is what this was. Just a rant.

There is no sinister or psychological undercurrent to dig out and analyze. If there was, I most certainly wouldn't be posting it here, LOL. And as Lori pointed out - tomorrow will be 10 whole years for my husband and I. Short of MINOR annoyances that I will occasionally gripe about - we are solid. I don't believe that I have set up or am setting my relationship up for failure...especially not after 10 years. But I really do appreciate the advice. I certainly don't want to be "judged" or "assessed" on a 2 min rant so I will opt for a more private outlet in the future. It's just too hard to paint a full picture and keep it simple. And, truly validity is hard to source out on a couple of statements and unfortunately less than desirable assumptions can/will be made, and I would prefer that not be the case.

Anyhoo - RANT OVER - you guys have a great night!

Psycho!

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Psycho!

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YOUR MAMA!!!!!!!!! (I win.)

My mom IS a little psycho so...I win? lol

I have one that's hubby's friend she comments on my comments on his page and she gets catty with me hello I am married to him! They were supposably friends in high school and there's another one too. They message and text him hello he is married! Momma had to say okay wait a min and I put the rein on things. Really you can message on fb and comment but calling and texting him on his personal phone is a bit much. Oh and saying things like when I come see you are you going to cook for me now that is just a bit much.. And he is clueless to it all so he says lol. I have ex's on mine too but there is such a thing as being respectful to others.

Girl if you need to rant call me! FB is the cause of tons of divorces. And yes it can be fun, and should be. But, there are people with other motives.....I feel ya chick!

When my late husband was killed his ex from high school messaged me on FB wanting old love letters she had sent him. Needless to say I was not nice.

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When my late husband was killed his ex from high school messaged me on FB wanting old love letters she had sent him. Needless to say I was not nice.

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WOOOOW. Way to kick someone while they're down I wouldn't have been nice either.

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When my late husband was killed his ex from high school messaged me on FB wanting old love letters she had sent him. Needless to say I was not nice.

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WOOOOW. Way to kick someone while they're down I wouldn't have been nice either.

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I had to come to terms that some people just don't think about other people's feelings before they do stupid things. Myself I could never ask someone anything like that. She still posts on my late hubsands facebook cause I keep it up for my children