Originally posted by zackmerritt333
i got my glider nearly 2 years ago and she's about 3. i've tried every method of bonding and nothing has worked. can someone tell me a good routine of what to do and when to do it? i don't want to rehome her :(
You mentioned you tried everything, can you mention methods you tried and how consistent you were with them?
I homed my two girls together when they were aprox 1 yr old, in Feb of 2012. They weren't super socialized for a majority of their first year with their original family. The mom did the care, but the children soon lost interest and they didn't have much interaction. Skadoosh, the youngest of the two was pretty easy going, but Lulu, was a monster (to put it nicely). After joining the forums, I learned that she was terrified, and that changed my view of her, and I began a mission to win her over.
I began spending fairly consistent "pouch time" with them during the day, I had limited time, so I tried daily, but sometimes maybe skipped a day, for about 10-15 minutes usually. I had treats handy to hand feed them when they popped their heads out of the pouch. I rubbed them through the pouches and spoke or sang softly to them. I was able to give them head scratches a little bit after a bit while they munched or licked their treat.
I had been doing about 10-15 minutes of "Out of Cage" visits in the evenings and also sometimes in the morning, (my XH did this with me, and sometimes without me). But I ended up glider-proofing my bathroom and began longer play times with them in there about three days a week (evening or early am).
Now all this effort made a huge difference, but I never felt like they were "super bonded" to me, but they were as much as they could be.
Then I homed my boy Ollie in Nov 2013, he was about 4 yrs old and I am, I believe his fourth home. I spent separate pouch time and out of cage play time with him, then when they were introduced successfully, I did them all together. I kind of quit the regular "pouch time", do it only occasionally. I continued routine out of cage play with the trio until I moved the first time in Feb 2014. Since then, I've not had the living arrangement along with different work schedules to really develop a good routine anymore, but I do the best I can. I have noticed a change with the less time I get them out to play, but they still know me, and I believe trust me.