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ptamom Posted - Jan 11 2018 : 10:02:39 PM
I am feeling saddened that I don't think my 3 ladies will ever love me they way that I love them.
The reason that I state this is because my son who rarely spends time with them or plays with them. The longest that he has been with them was when we brought them home in July (long car ride).
I am the one that feeds them, wakes up at 3am when they are barking to make sure they are ok, cleans their cages, does tent time, and holds them daily. They love using me as a tree.
I admit that I am loud and hyper but I try to be aware of that when I hold them. They don't crab at me when I hold them and will often lick me.
Will it always be this way?
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ptamom Posted - Jan 18 2018 : 03:48:15 AM
Thank you for the encouragement. I did have an "ahhhh" moment tonight in the tent. I gave Athens and Explorer a "dried chicken" treat. Athena ate hers away from me but Explorer sat on my shoulder and ate hers. Serena decided to come out and was quite content being by my neck; so much so I thought she was sleeping.
I love my ladies |
Scoria Posted - Jan 17 2018 : 04:58:30 AM
It sounds like they do like you, they just have a different relationship with you than with your son. Don't take it personally if they seem to treat you differently. You may be right about it having something to do with you startling them with lots of noise and activity, I find animals tend to prefer it when you project calmness and confidence when handling them, especially prey animals. Sometimes I take a nap in a recliner with my gliders in their bonding pouch or watch t.v. with them, having calm time together. They usually happily pop away in there and it helps our bond. The best time to be hyper with them is when they're in the mood for it. It took me a while to figure out what they were telling me and I still don't have it down 100%.
Each glider is different and its relationships with its humans will be different. My boys were pretty happy with me the day I got them and considered me their safe space even then, and quickly realized hiding from me during playtime was boring because then they didn't get treats and attention, and now only really hide to nap. Lots of gliders aren't like that and take much longer to trust their handlers and even longer to bond. Even though mine probably sound incredibly tame, how they interact with me is still different than how they were with their previous owner, and there are some things the last owner did with them that they still aren't ready for with me, and might not ever be. If I think about that I can feel a bit bad, like they don't like me or something, but then I put it into perspective and realize they like me quite a lot, and I'm very fortunate to have such nice gliders. Just remember they're relatively undomesticated animals and enjoy them for the cute and unique pets they are, and don't have any expectations or compare your relationship with them with your son's, just have fun with them. |
ptamom Posted - Jan 13 2018 : 11:05:23 AM
Thank you |
TJones09 Posted - Jan 12 2018 : 09:52:33 PM
Nothing is wrong with you. Gliders are what they are, lol, and I still feel that way about mine. They do not love me like I love them and probably never will. And yes, this bothers me a lot, at times. But then, I think reasonably, they are basically wild creatures, being that they are exotic, not domesticated. Yes, there are those out there with gliders that seem to adore them, phewy, good for them, lol. My fur brats are who they are, and because I love them so much, I accept them for whatever I can get from them.
I do understand, my X got more love from my girls (before being an X) than I did, and it was the same thing. I took care of them and spent the time with them, and occasionally he'd show some attention and wow! They'd be all googly-eyed (exaggeration) over him, lol.
Hang in there! Each glider as a different capability and rate at which they bond, just keep working on building the relationship and accept what it is. You will see progress, maybe not everything you want, but there'll be some, and you will want to celebrate it! |
ptamom Posted - Jan 12 2018 : 08:41:08 PM
After reading my post, I realize that I didn't put in the fact that they prefer my son over me. The eldest girl, Athena will sit on his hand without running with no bonding pouch; If I were to try to hold her, she would run.
I know about the eyes as one of my ladies got the white of my eye during tent time; I now try to have my reading glasses on.
Thanks for the encouragement
Ps. I cant let all 3 out of the cage at the same time as they go in different directions and also takes me an hour to put back |
Wishes Posted - Jan 12 2018 : 08:31:23 PM
My wishes is a butt
He is Supersweet all day he will lick treats off my finger
No crabbing
Let me take a nail file to his nails ( my eyes are too bad to use nail clippers)
But at night time he will latch onto my hand and bite the ever loving crap out of me while he's making this chattering hiss
During the day he wants to be with me he makes this cute popping tweeting noise when I pet him
At night when I let him out for out of cage time and it is spending two hours to keep an eye him because he runs from me ( tent time was dangerous for my eyes, wishes likes to go for your eyes)
And another hour trying to catch him to put him in the cage because he hates me
It's to the point I think out of cage time might be detrimental to our relationship lol
Total Jekyll and Hyde
I think your story sounds like your gliders love you way more than mine loves me
I wish wishes would just pee me ... lol maybe not pee on me but just be on me at all when he awake and not bite me
I have heard bonding can take up to two years but if your girls want to be with you I think you're definitely on the right track
All good relationships take time
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