First of all, take a deep breath! Thank you for reaching out for help.
Sugar glider bonding can take a really long time. I’ve had my female for almost a year now and she’s finally getting to the place where she’s comfortable hanging out with me. My male, on the other hand, was really easy to bond with. It all depends on the glider’s personality. That said, some things to facilitate the bonding process can be to hold the gliders in a bonding pouch (or your bra if they’ll do that or a hoodie, etc) during the day while they’re asleep. That way they get more used to your voice and your smell. I don’t know what bonding methods you’ve been doing, though. I’m sorry you’re having a rough time!
Is your male neutered? If he isn’t, then there is a very good chance that your female is pregnant. Sugar gliders are only pregnant for sixteen days (do you know the date of when they mated??). After that the babies are born and they crawl to the pouch. They stay in the pouch for about 10 weeks. During that time you shouldn’t open the pouch or do anything to disturb the babies. If they get detached from the nipples, they’ll die because they can’t reopen their mouths to re-attach themselves. After then 10 weeks, the joeys will START to come out of the pouch. It’ll be slow at first and they are very very vulnerable and very small. They will stay with their mother for 8 – 12 weeks. After that, they will be weaned and eating solid food on their own.
(Side note, the father is a huge part in raising the joeys, don’t ever separate the pair as this will stress the mother out).
Do you know if your male and female have lineage? If not, it’s likely that the joeys will be inbred. Please get your male neutered as soon as possible.
I’m not trying to be judgmental here, but I’m afraid like it can come across like that through the computer screen! My intentions are only to help.
As far as bonding with your female during this time, my advice is to just keep doing what you’re doing now. Sugar gliders are habitual animals. If something throws off their routine, it’s going to cause them stress. Just try to keep everything as normal for your female as possible.
Sorry for the long response! I hope it was helpful. If you have any other questions, please feel free to ask here or to PM me.