I think everyone summed up the main points pretty well on this topic. Something else to consider is sometimes people get very passionate about the advice they are giving. Which can make it seem like an attack to the person receiving the information.
JlPrkr and I had an exchange of words on here one day about Pocket Pets
We were both pretty passionate in our responses to each other and at the end of it we both understood each other and apologized to each other for the misinterpretations we both had. Even while we "argued" each of our points of view, I understood his and He tried to understand mine. The more we learn the more our points of view on certain things might change....
We don't always agree with each other, we have our own thoughts and opinions on things which needs to be respected. I don't expect anyone to have the same methods or beliefs as I do, but I do expect people to respect that the method works for me or that it's my belief from my experiences and I try to return that courtesy.
I've recently been told by a very respected person in the community that this forum is the absolute worst place new owners find to get information. She believes there is bullying and scare tactics used to get people to change how they do things whether it's about unsafe wheels or pellet food etc. She was even a little shocked that I'm a member here. I don't spend as much time here as I once did but I still check in to see if I can be of any help to anyone.
The other day someone posted on here a very heartbreaking post about considering putting her glider down. She got very little help here from anyone, basically a lot of oh I'm so sorry that is so such a hard thing to go through type response.
Instead of making a big commotion about it I gave her links to two people that could actually help her make her decision and get the vet care and financial aid she would need for the glider.
That same person that said this site is the worst place, was the ONE person that helped the lady in that situation. Then I told her THIS is why is still come to this forum, to HELP those people that really need it and wouldn't get it otherwise. If I hadn't posted on that thread it's pretty likely that glider would have been put down.
Instead the glider had her tail amputated and recovering nicely, she is now on a better diet and is actually eating annnnd is scheduled to go to one of the BEST Glider vets in the Country to have further testing done to find out what is going on with her. Vet bills from situations like this can overwhelm someone in a hurry so we are organizing an auction and have some Pledges in place already for each stage of the vet care.
I know this is long, but perhaps now you can see passed some of the bs and take a look at what some of us REALLY do here to try to help people. I'm not trying to brag but I have assisted in Rehoming several gliders from this forum into experienced loving forever homes, I have found people cage mates that needed them, I have helped in a couple tail amputations people needed and couldn't afford to have done, I've helped a local rescue find homes for surrendered gliders they couldn't take in, I've sent cage sets and toys to people at NO charge that needed them, I donate to fundraiser auctions to raise money for these tail amputations or vet procedures, I mentor several people, have helped several teenagers find their first gliders because they researched and worked hard to become a good glider owner, I look things up for people to lazy to look it up themselves, I help organize railroads to get gliders to their new homes, I spend everyday from the time I wake up until I fall asleep HELPING people with what ever I can.
So yeh occasionally one of my responses to someone seeking help can sound a bit harsh, especially when I have offered suggestions in detail to that person and the person largely ignored it. It gets frustrating and my time could of been spent helping someone that actually needs it and is trying and putting in an effort.
But frankly, were not here to blow smoke up your a%$ Your internet feelers aren't my first concern sometimes. Getting you the help and resources you need to take care of that glider is MY first concern and I try to do that as gently and nicely as possible but sometimeees My passion takes over... Keep in mind people don't get paid to be here we spend a lot of our time helping people with basic questions and sometimes we just have a bad day ourselves or are busy helping 9 other people with 15 different issues that they need help with.