got dumped by boyfriend the other night, and he has my sugar glider....and his. I know there is no way I would separate these guys but I dont know what to do. I take the most care of them and buy everything they need....but they are at his house. can we do joint custody? and if we did should we both get cages or keep the same cage, just transport it, or would that be way too stressful for the boys? I just want whats best for them...

....sigh....

...I cant think properly (messed up sooo many times bartending last night you'd've thought it was my first night)...so advice?

also any advice on how to look at the guy that kinda broke you and gathering your things from his place would be helpful to. have bad feeling will end up sobbing in his room.

now im gonna go take care of the little girl i nanny as she has been puking all day GREAT START TO THE WEEK. just great...

sounds like an FML kinda day.

As for joint custody- thats usually OK with dogs or cats but i thoink it would be too stressful for gliders...and do not separate thyem by any means, if the jerk X puts a fight, it might be best to leave the gliders with him... I dont know you exact situation so its kinda hard to tell what exactly wou;d be best...

Hood luck though =)

if jerk x puts up fight, will glider-nap. think i wont shimmy up a ladder to get my baby. (plus my dad is friends with all the police chiefs....NO FEAR!)


its an fml week. didnt even get to have coffee and caroline time today.

do you think i should buy him out? in reality i've bought the cage, all the toys, the wheels, the tent....and the gliders are in my name (got them from a breeder...BEFORE I FOUND THIS WEBSITE) and so their certificate (or whatever i was too excited to really pay attention) has my name and info...technically mine huh?

im starting to get scrappy about this....very good! maybe won't get weepy!

I am sorry about loosing your boy or boys,I hope you dont get sick from that child but with you going through this you can kinda plan on getting it,(stress lowers your imume system) maybe later on you can try to work out some sort of plan to visit the gliders,but your best bet would be going and getting your own gliders,but I would make it clear to him that he is to make sure and feed and water and to spend time with both gliders or you will get ahold of the humane society. its too bad you gotta worry about the gliders,he took them to get even with you or just to hurt your feelings,hes not looking out for them.good luck.

I would imagine since they're 'in your name' you have all rights to them If you have that paper/those papers on hands, and he tries to keep you from taking your babies, get the police involved. Those are YOUR babies, PERIOD.

i do nanny for a judge and a lawyer and they treat me like a daughter, so i know the dad (lawyer) would right a letter for me. but i really hope it doesnt come down to that...im gonna offer to buy yoda, and help him find gliders. i want my baby boy krumm, he only likes me and jerk won't let him run around if he crabs or bites. and my krumm just needs to get to know you! and i miss him. terribly....

If they are in your name and you have reciepts for your purchases, legally they are yours and he can be charged with theft and possession of stolen property.

I wouldn't let him keep your babies... 'specially if he is the vengeful type!

I would ask if he really wants them and perhaps he will just give them to you. Or then try to negotiate and see if there is anything he would like from you in full exchange. If he wont budge, let him have them and let him know that he can give them to you in some future if he loses interest.

Dont fight over them, let him win if he's gotta. The deal with breakups is to just let it happen and get out with whatever you can. Start over, it will be ok.

the great and wise kazko


thanks everybody for your input, will let you know if i get them!

I wouldn't just 'let him have them'.
YOU bought them. If they're in your name, they're YOURS.

My pets are my babies, just as much as my biological son is my baby. I wouldn't just hand my son over, or let them keep him, because they have him and don't want to give him back.

NO WAY.

no matter what keep the gliders together regardless of what human gets them. It may come down to who pledges to take care of them forever. Sorry about the split. Praying for you and the suggies...

so i got my boys yesterday but we still havent figured out where they will stay....i think he wants to get a cage and have them have 2 homes. they are used to both areas but i dont know.

stupid idiot boy.

so i think i will try to contact the rescue in nc that ed (luckyglider....could be very wrong about your real name lol) gave me and see if she has had any colonies surrendered lately. maybe she'll give me a good price since i have to surrender my baby for his benefit.



I HATE THIS.