For those of us that have lost a love one the holidays seem to intensify the saddness we feel over that loss. I do not know anyone that has not been touched by this dreadful disease.
My mom was dx with breast cancer at the age of 45....I had just gotten engaged and what should have been a very happy and exciting time became a very scarey time...my mom was not only my parent but my best friend. She and dad had divorsed when I was only 5 so it was just she & me...she had a mastectomy and went ahead full force planning my wedding.....Joe & I decided to start a family soon after we were married...I had a fear of losing mom and I wanted her to have the enjoyment of her first grandchild. Thank God we had our daughter just 6 months before mom died...only 3 weeks after her 48th birthday.
From the time Kim was born I took her to my moms house every week...a few weeks after Kim was born Mom was dx with a brain tumor and had surgery to remove it...as they were wheeling her to the OR she looked at me and smiled and said "at least this time when I come out I'll still have a breast"...she was the most amazing woman...it has been 36 years now and although then intense pain of the loss is no longer with me to this day I still miss her and every Christmas when the presents are opened and the family has gone home I think of her and wish that she had been able to be with us.
When you know what is ahead you can be sure to make the most of what time you have left...you never really prepare yourself..you know what is comming but when it happens it knocks you down...only when someone is suffering and in pain can you tell yourself they are better off...but then you always think why did it happen at all....and there is NO answer...for those wearing those shoes..spend as much time with the one who is losing their battle..take pictures and make memories...those memories are what will help you get through each day when their day is done.
My thoughts and prayers are with you Rita, Jett and Raven...I truly know what you are going through...be strong and take one day at a time...